We Are one
We hear bits and pieces of what love is from so many sources. One of the more popular lines is that we have to love ourselves before we can truly love somebody else. What does that mean though? For me, it means we are all one. Each of us is a part of the same universe experiencing itself. So, if we say we don’t love another person we are subconsciously saying we don’t love ourselves.
Inside of you lives a shadow and a light. No one else has access to that world but you. We waste a lot of time trying to convince ourselves others can quiet our demons. It’s true that people with calming and inviting energy can envelope us in it and quiet the noise, but it’s as temporary as the time you can spend in their energy. You can cultivate that feeling within yourself and call on it whenever you’re in need; inner peace.
To spend our lives searching outside of ourselves is to not understand that we are one. I am part of you, and you are part of me. It’s one universe that can divide itself into many moving parts. If I can’t love and understand myself I cannot love and understand someone else. If I do love and understand others it’s easier to love and understand myself. All else is a waste of our energy and causes us more problems in the end.
There are times that people do or say something so vile we have no choice but to set a boundary, and I am an advocate of boundaries. I’m also an advocate of understanding no matter how vile it was it wasn’t personal. Explanations for behavior should never be excuses, but explanations matter to help us understand. When we understand we can forgive and maintain the love, even if we can’t maintain the union.
Unconditional love is the only real love there is. When you can be hurt by someone so deeply and actively heal you come to a point where all you want for that person is for them to heal, too. You understand that they would have treated anyone the way they treated you because of who they believe they are, and not because of who you are. So, you wish them peace, love, and happiness with or without you.
None of this is easy, and it takes a lot of daily practice in learning, meditation, journaling, and shadow work, but all of that is so worth it. You are love. You cannot find yourself in someone else. You must first recognize it within, and you’ll vibe at a frequency that will attract it to you externally. It will be like looking in a mirror. Even then, sometimes you have to allow them to leave.
Real, unconditional love is freedom. Not the freedom to hurt you as they please. The freedom to be who they are, to learn their lessons, to experience what they were sent to earth to experience. We all have our own journey and path. Love is giving someone the space to walk their own path, offering tools and assistance when you can, and keeping your distance if that becomes necessary.
The whole time you will feel loved. You will remember you are love. We cannot ever lose ourselves. Expose all the darkness in you to your light. Don’t take the darkness in others personal. Tend to your inner garden because only then will you have something beautiful and blossoming to pull from when others are in need. No one else has access to your inner world but you.
We can’t keep building higher walls and expecting people not to get tired of all the climbing. Neither can we put endless energy into people who have built high walls they don’t plan to tear down. It just is what is. That’s all it can ever be.
We are one. We are one. We are one. Even the people you hate the most are part of the same fabric of the universe as you. Their experiences have shaped them for better or worse and yours have shaped you. Instead of wasting time upset at them, work on overcoming your own shortcomings and evolving.
That’s what the world needs.
Namaste.
