Throw Caution to the Wind

Adjust Your Sails
13 min readAug 6, 2022

Today I want to talk about learning from the past. There are far too many of you who are running from the past, trying to leave it behind. But you’re doing so without learning the lessons it contains. It’s uncomfortable to sit with. I know because I’ve trained myself to do just that.

Your memories never leave your mind. That’s true no matter how far and fast you try to run from them. What has come before can inform what is to come now if you don’t change the way you’re reacting or responding. It’s time to acknowledge what has happened to you without taking it personal. See it all for the impersonal, ancestral, societal cycle that it is.

Visiting your past with self-awareness changes everything. What is the story you want people to tell about you when you’re gone? Do you want that story to be true or fabricated? You get to decide that today, right now, tomorrow, at any moment. With just one decision you can change the story.

Surrender to the pull of your higher self. There is nothing good to be found when we are making decisions based in fear. Those decisions usually come from a wounded inner child. Rather than escaping that child walk them through their healing. Surrender to your own voice being all you need.

Are you pursuing your healing as hard as you are external validation? Why do you care so much that other people approve of you? Do you approve of yourself? Because if not their approval won’t convince you. What have you distracted yourself with? Where have you gone overboard in pursuit of something that can only be found within you?

You may not love yourself in this moment. I’m not asking you to. I am asking you to accept your inner child and your wounds. They are part of you, but you don’t have to wear them as a badge of honor. You must embrace the wounded bits of yourself and nurse them back to health. No one can do it for you.

It won’t happen when you find the never perfect relationship. It won’t happen when you finally reach the pinnacle of success in your chosen field. It isn’t happening when you have a child. It will happen when you choose to accept your whole self and become responsible for the broken bits.

You want to overcome your shame? Surrender to it. Accept that you have said or done things that you are…

Adjust Your Sails

You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors. ― Andrew Boyd