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There are no Rules; only Revelations
I can be so fixed, rigid, and headstrong. Since owning that about myself, through the study of human behavior and psychology, I’ve been able to shame myself less, and control that part of me more. Sometimes I see things so clearly, and others take a while to catch up.
It’s not my job to rush them. Only to love and support them where them where they are at. If where they are at leads them to disrespect me I am going to set a healthy boundary with rocks in my gut. I’m going to let myself feel hurt and betrayed if I need to. That is valid and it exists.
However, I am not going to base the decisions I make next on how personal the pain feels. It just isn’t. I reassure that wounded inner child that it’s okay to feel what she feels. It’s not okay to project or put up walls. My higher self is going to make the hurt version feel heard, validated, and understood.
Only then will that wounded inner child feel settled again. It will never matter what you say to me, or what anyone else says to me. It’s like an addiction to words that come so few and far between, and only after I beg for them, maybe. You cannot reach my inner child the way that I can.
If you’ve followed me a while you already know how I feel about this. I could spend 55 minutes of every hour of every day reassuring you. Your emotions will shift based…
