The Safe Space

We have to become our own safe space first. We have to stop trying to make home in human hearts when we haven’t learned to decorate our own. We have to pretend we deserve real, authentic love, even when it’s hard. Even when it takes everything in us to make the right decision. The one someone with self-worth and self-respect would make.

The pretending only lasts for a little bit. See, when you wait to feel like it that day never comes. So, you learn to act first, no matter how you feel. And over time you start to feel empowered. You begin to feel pride in yourself. Self-respect develops. You heal your own heart and relationship to self.

You realize it’s never about trusting anyone else. It’s about trusting yourself to not tolerate disrespect. To not take it personal, but to not sit and take it either. Light it all on fire in the pursuit of authenticity and vulnerability or you will never know real freedom. It’s a state of mind; of being.

Own every part of your story, for better or worse. Once you understand the worst was never you, but learned behavior, forgiveness for self and others can bring in deep healing. Yes, you’ll have to let some people go. Not everyone will be ready to be vulnerable at the same time as you. It’s okay to grieve that.

Those who stick around or come in next will get to know the new you. Maybe they’ll stick around…