Self-Discipline and Determination

Adjust Your Sails
18 min readJul 6, 2022

Still offering an hour reading for $20. Payment is through Cashapp for now. You can choose an hour phone consult or an hour Zoom meeting we can record for later instruction if you need to revisit something we said. Thank you to those who have reached out. Looking forward to the first of what I hope will be more encounters with a new client Friday. ❤

Since July of last year I have found myself in the most unfamiliar space my physical body has ever been in, but it feels so good to my soul. I began asking the Christian God for growth years ago, but then I outgrew him. I began to seek science for the answers, and I still do for many things, but it has gotten it wrong, too. I certainly learned my lesson idealizing anyone or anything.

Eventually I decided to learn about human behavior and psychology in order to look within for those answers. That’s where they all are. Every single lesson you believe you struggle to learn is there. In fact, that’s the only place those answers will ever be found. How much time we waste seeking them elsewhere. You get to decide what you value and cultivate it within.

It’s not then your job to project your way as the only right way. That’s forgetting to remain humble. Confidence and arrogance are not the same thing. Confidence isn’t meanness and spite either. It’s rising above behaviors and societal norms that feed off putting others down for temporary hits of validation and belonging that is never really felt.

Everything I have asked the universe for is unfolding in my life. I have learned to be patient and trust the process. That doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means it’s the most authentic it has ever been, even if unfamiliar. This love is accountability taking love. It’s soul deep, intimate, authentic, understanding, devoted love. It’s open and honest love with those in my life.

Yes, it’s unfamiliar.

I’m not used to being able to have deep conversations with my children without shame ruining it. We always came back from it, but it was more common to let it win for a minute. Now we allow whichever one of us is triggered to take space, figure it out, and come back to communicate with growth and authentic love and acceptance in mind.

Adjust Your Sails

You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors. ― Andrew Boyd