Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

Today I have relationships on my mind. Both the Moon and Venus are moving into my fourth house, and so perhaps I’m in a reflecting mood. The fourth house can include our emotional foundations, and mine have changed so much over the years. I am my own foundation.

It’s time to release neediness. When you are needy, clingy, begging another person to love you, you are out of your vortex. The opposite of love is never hate; it’s fear. Any moment you are begging someone to receive or give love you’re not in love. You are in a trauma bond or attachment that is unhealthy. You are in fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of abandonment.

When you live in fear you create your own worst case scenarios. You reject and abandon yourself, over and over. You self-sabotage. Fear cannot accept real love. Real love requires honesty, authenticity, and vulnerability. That can be incredibly scary, so we cling to the familiar, even if chaotic and toxic.

You have to learn to trust yourself. To be secure and stable in who you are, regardless how others make you feel. Most relationships exist with one person walking around confused, begging the other for clarity. They consist of givers clinging on to takers, with nothing more than resentment in return.

This is because the giver is only giving to receive temporary validation, and the validation seldom…