Marry the one who doesn’t need you

I know the feeling of being with someone you can’t imagine living without. I know the feeling of wanting more and better from that person, and begging them for it to no avail. I know the feeling of trying to save everyone else in order to somehow earn your own redemption.

I also know how it feels to walk away from all of that. To see toxic attachment styles for what they are. To be confident enough to stop taking things personal, and stop begging for what is never coming. I know the feeling of owning my worth and no longer hustling for it.

What I have learned is you don’t want to marry the person who says they need you, and proves it as you constantly have to reassure them of your dedication to this wounded version of them that sucks away all your energy. Marry the person who wants you.

The one who can do life well alone, but chooses to do life with you instead. That’s your person. One who thrives in self-esteem and confidence. Never fight for a spot in anyone’s life. If they do not actively choose you let them lose you.

If their signal is not clear restrict their access to your channel. Stop wasting time trying to decipher codes and fears in other people. There is no prize for that. There is only ever more pain.