Becoming Whole: Healing Never Looked so Good
I’m writing this while Venus and Mercury are retrograde (Rx) in my Aries 9th house, forming a tense square with my Venus in the Capricorn 6th house. I know this perspective will challenge many, but the greatest transformations come from questioning what we’ve always believed
I was sent the same video twice today by two different people. And I went and explored it with ChatGPT. There is a reason women try to fix men, and why men think they have to save women. The problem is that for so long we’ve had wounded masculinity ruling our world.
Pluto in Capricorn ended that era. And rather than LGBTQIA+ people being some sign of doom, they are proof of what I’m about to say. Pluto is in Aquarius now. The patriarchy has been exposed. And if there are people still clinging to that you may need to leave them alone.
In this video she is asking AI if women’s role in the revolution is to awaken men, what is the role of the men? Her AI answered that men’s role is to be the guardians of her return. This means men cannot truly perform their role until the wise women rise first.
For so long, our system has been built by flipping this narrative on its head. Patriarchy isn’t about men holding power. It’s a severing of the mother from her own creation because when she forgets who she is, the masculine forgets what he is here to protect.
It is when sacred, wise women step up into their confident power, that the sacred men will follow. They will feel it in their bones. They aren’t meant to be the leaders on this new Earth. They are meant to be the keepers of the parameter, while women rebuild everything from the inside out.
The masculine expressing in its highest form is like the circle of stones around a fire. They stand guard, hold steady, and create a container, so the feminine can do the holy work of weaving life back together.
Many men are lost right now. It’s because women are not calling them home. Everyone is busy either dominating or disappearing. Men are waiting for women to light their fires again, so they can remember what they are supposed to be protecting in the first place.
The system has tricked men into thinking their power is in controlling women, when it’s actually found serving the feminine with devotion. Because when he does that, when she feels safe and supported, she will create a life he will never believe could have existed.
It is when the women rise, that the sacred masculine will, too. They will put down their swords in favor of a staff. Because holy masculinity isn’t about being soft or a strongman. It’s about being steady, unshakeable, and immovable, so the sacred feminine can burn bright and create in safety.
The world is shifting and the divine feminine has awoken. She is coming back to restore balance and harmony with the earth and nature. This is found as far back as you go.
I’ll give you some examples:
- Hopi Prophecy: Indigenous Hopi elders say we are in the “Fourth World,” a period of imbalance and destruction. The Fifth World will be led by women and return to harmony with nature and spirit.
- Hinduism & The Age of Kali: We are in the age of Kali Yuga, where the world is dominated by corruption, greed, and destruction (overly masculine). The Goddess Kali destroys what is broken, so the Divine Feminine can rebirth a new world.
- The Return of Maat (Ancient Egypt): Maat represents truth, justice, and divine order. In times of imbalance, she returns to restore divine harmony.
- Biblical Revelation & The Woman Clothed in the Sun: Some interpret the “woman clothed in the sun” from Revelation 12 as the return of the Divine Feminine power to birth a new world.
- Plato & The Androgynous Soul: In The Symposium, Plato describes how humans were once both masculine and feminine in one body. The gods split us in half, and now we seek wholeness. This isn’t just about men needing women — it’s about integrating both energies within ourselves.
So, in all of these traditions, masculine dominance leads to destruction, and feminine energy rises to heal.
The masculine is meant to be a protective structure, and the feminine is the creative force. You see it in nature. The womb creates life, but needs a strong body to protect it. The earth grows food, but needs the Sun to give it energy. Water is fluid and powerful, but needs Riverbanks to guide its flow.
What we are seeing now is the exposing of wounded masculinity. Instead of being a strong container, the masculine has become a cage. Instead of protecting, it seeks to control. Instead of guiding, it forces. This is why the divine feminine energy is rising; to tear down the cage and restore balance.
Masculine and feminine are energies, not gender roles. Pluto in Aquarius is going to make that more obvious than ever. A woman can be in her masculine energy without being wounded. And a man can be in his feminine without being wounded, too.
And non-binary people are likely a good balance of both. So wherever you fall you are not outside of this prophecy. You are proof of it. Many indigenous cultures saw LGBTQIA+ as sacred.
- Two-Spirit (Indigenous): They embodied both masculine and feminine energies, acting as healers and wisdom keepers.
- Hijras (India): Revered as spiritual beings, embodying both divine forces.
- Shamans (Many cultures): Often androgynous or queer because they could access both energies.
The central theme in all of these examples is balance and integration. And that takes a lot of surrender, trust, and intentional work.
Queer people are literally the fusion of masculine and feminine energies. They are the bridge between the old and the new world.
So, rather than being excluded from the prophecy, LGBTQIA+ people are walking proof that the divine balance is already being restored.
They are showing the world that gender roles are constructs, and the true goal is internal balance. Right now, Pluto in Aquarius (2023–2044) is the period where the toxic old structures die.
- Pluto in Capricorn (2008–2023) was the last era of hierarchy, control, capitalism, and extreme patriarchy.
- Pluto in Aquarius (2023–2044) is the rebirth of feminine power, decentralized power, and spiritual awakening.
What does this mean?
- Women rising into leadership (but not just copying toxic male power).
- Men learning emotional intelligence, healing their wounds, and stepping into true masculinity.
- Queer and non-binary people becoming more accepted, proving that gender is fluid and balance is key.
- Spiritual power moving away from religion and back to direct experience.
We are witnessing the prophecy unfold. The wounded masculine is breaking down, and the divine feminine is returning. But it’s not about women replacing men. It’s about everyone — regardless of gender — learning to integrate both energies.
This isn’t about women fixing men. It’s about balance. If you only have feminine within you it’s chaos. Ideas without structure, emotions without protection. And if you only have masculine, you have control. You have rigid systems of oppression, no room for creation, joy, or intuition.
The world is learning to hold both at once.
So, if you feel drawn to awakening, to healing, to teaching men, it’s not because it’s your duty as a woman. It’s because you have both energies inside of you and are meant to show others how to balance them. But that means the masculine in you must be healthy enough to set boundaries related to your self-respect.
If you feel drawn to being fluid, embracing both energies, or rejecting traditional gender roles, that is also part of the prophecy. The future is not about only women rising. It’s about all of us becoming whole.
I’ve told you guys in so many blogs that your relationships will only ever reflect back to you how healthy your relationship to yourself is. Because if you don’t have self-respect you won’t have respect for your partner, and you’ll choose partners who don’t have respect for you. Every person you ever interact with is a mirror of your own unhealed wounds.
And what I’m talking about today is directly related to that idea. At the core of everything what we see outside of ourselves is just a reflection of what’s happening inside of us. If you’re choosing to settle for a toxic partnership, it’s not because you have no other choices. Choose your hard.
Because the relationships you choose show everyone who knows you just how much self-respect you have or do not. Refuse to settle for what you’ve settled for in the past. Spend time alone. Get to know what you truly want. What is it you desire not just from connection, but for your soul’s evolution.
The internal masculine and feminine must be healed in each of us, and then we will see massive healing on the larger scale. If the inner masculine has been wounded, you’re likely to attract a wounded masculine energy. If you inner feminine is wounded, you will attract partners who don’t respect your boundaries or feelings.
So, if we haven’t balanced these energies within ourselves, we will continue reliving those same wounds in our external relationships over and over. It’s never about you. Whatever they have within themselves is what they have to offer you, and maybe it’s really all they can do. You still don’t settle.
When a woman is in her masculine she is said to be wounded. Even if she is in a healthy masculine energy. She is confident, knows her worth, strong but soft, takes action without forcing, aligned with structure, she has boundaries, but still receives.
If you’re a woman in a wounded masculine you’re hyper-independent. You claim to not need anyone. You struggle to release control and surrender. You’re disconnected from your own emotions, and judging everyone else’s. You’re overly strong with a refusal or fear of being soft.
And women, until you spend time in that and heal you will continue to approach every new man with defensiveness, rigidness, and distrust. You will overdevelop your masculine energy to protect yourself, but this actually hurts you so much. It blocks your ability to receive the love, support, and care you keep asking for.
The feminine is meant to receive. If she is in an unhealthy masculine she unconsciously attracts partners who need mothering, or fail to step up. You have to trust your own ability to surrender and be soft, and then you will attract partners who hold space for your wild. A protective container.
Men are called weak when they are too in their feminine. However, a man who is in his healthy feminine is emotionally open and knows how to express his feelings. He is creative and intuitive, so he trusts his inner guidance. He is tuned into love and conscious connection, so he values the relationships in his life and doesn’t seek to dominate or control them.
I’d rather be with a man who enjoys painting his nails, than to be embarrassed with the man who would make fun of him for it. See a man in his wounded feminine is passive and indecisive. He doesn’t take initiative. He gets emotionally overwhelmed and feels lost without external approval.
He is afraid of responsibility and often avoids stepping up. When men have been hurt, their inner masculine feels unsafe. They unconsciously retreat into their wounded feminine. They avoid responsibility, lack direction, and feel lost. Especially if he’s been taught expressing emotions is weak.
He may avoid vulnerability to protect himself. But this means he has to give up depth and burning passion for surface level exchanges. He ends up in relationships with women who control him, or he has to battle for a sense of control. Either way it feels like a cage. It’s never free.
Once a man heals his feminine he becomes a deeply intuitive leader. An emotionally intelligent, connected and strong presence in his partner’s life. And again, our bodies are simply containers for the energy. What you look like doesn’t determine your gender, or how fluid it may feel.
And that’s why so many people are still uncomfortable when we talk about transgender people. I have a lot of experience with this. My children are the two-spirit, sacred souls that saved my life. And every single one of them is in on the spectrum. One of them detransitioned and is working through what her story is with that.
That’s not embarrassing to me. How lucky am I that I had children who taught me so much about acceptance and love? Who are here as proof of the divine feminine nurturing I’ve been intentionally cultivating within me for years. Let your triggers be your teacher.
There is no amount of shame worth blowing a second chance for. ❤
Most people are living in one of two extremes. The overdeveloped masculine seeking control, independence, and avoidant. Or the overdeveloped feminine, falling into codependency and people pleasing. But true power comes when we align with both.
A healed person (regardless of gender) is action oriented and grounded, which is masculine. However, they are still intuitive and open, which is feminine. Confident and strong, which is masculine, but soft and receptive, which is feminine. A leader and protector, which is masculine, and a creator and healer, which is feminine.
When you heal, your entire reality shifts.
Your relationships become:
💖 More connected.
💖 More empowering.
💖 More aligned with your soul.
Because the world is just a mirror. And the more we restore balance inside, the more we will see balance outside.
Men, it’s time to expand your role. You were born for such a time as this. We need you to be strong, but soft. To heal with us, so we can move past triggers and into healthy conscious connecting. You don’t have to get aggressive, controlling, or rigid. You must learn to surrender in order to receive. The divine feminine lives in us all. That includes you.
When healing masculine and feminine energies find love, however that comes, it changes the world. If each of us would just be honest and responsible for balancing our own energy and inner world, the world at large would become more peaceful and free.
In a healed world the men do provide protection. Men are willing to be vulnerable to protect hearts. They have no desire to control. They simply provide a safe space for the wild feminine to create and exist. When the feminine feels safe she is inspired. When the masculine is steady in his own inner world, he builds. Her ideas, his masterplan.
Together, they create a peaceful, beautiful life. Not just for themselves, but for everyone around them.
And maybe that’s the lesson of Mars Rx in Cancer. The wounded masculine has to learn how to hold space for his own feelings, so that he becomes a container for hers. And together, their safety, love, and desire manifests a life more beautiful than they could have ever dreamed.
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